For a Child - who plays a more significant role - his foster father or his biological father...

 

from one of the posts from a #linkedin connections, the first thing that came to my mind was that the time is

 #now for #everyone to #think, to #ponder, are we really, as a

 #society, or as a collection of people strong enough or wise enough to understand this very basic principle or #truth

 that there are many times when a person will not be allowed to keep a trace of his own #gene on this universe, and instead, he will have to take a helping hand of his so-called friend to give him a child to raise for the betterment of the society and when this happens almost regularly instead of keeping the real #father as a #ghost #character for the upcoming #child who will take birth after a few months

 can we transpire this #truth to this kid at a proper time?

 or maybe questions like, what will be the kinds of stuff to consider to pick up such a father for one's child

 do the man and the woman participants in the role who will ultimately be given the charge of raising the child and making him/her an #asset to the #society, which is obviously more important than just giving the birth have a say in picking up the #father or who exactly decides the real #father of the would-be child?

 is this done under #compulsion or is this done for a better #purpose and then what does  that #purpose mean anything to the foster parents? Does it align to their own thinking or their own purpose?

 I know this was very common in the ancient #bharat

 the #pandava of #mahabharata were created through this process of #preserving the best #gene for the overall good of the society. 

 now again our #hindu society had such a clear cut #conscience unlike today's rotten society producing just foul smells coming out of #falsehood and #camouflage

 that only #karna did not know who was his real father because when he was born when #kunti was unmarried and of course all the other brothers of #pandava knew who their real father were and they never shied away in accepting it. in fact, they sometimes celebrated and if this was our society many years ago then have we really progressed or have we really lost the game of creating strong 

 #characters capable of fighting against the real enemies of the society to establish

 #truth

 by concealing this basic #truth of his/her birth from the person himself/herself?

 and if a person, after many years has to work as a spy or whatever to know this very basic #truth and then the #universe celebrates it as his/her #awakening or opening up #eyes

 #ohmygod

 such a  #childish society we have created. almost all of the people behave just very small, little #dickheads in comparison to the #truthfulness of our ancient society and then we can't really expect such a person whom we cannot trust even to let him/her know who his/her real father is will ever be able to do anything good for the society.

 because whatever he will do will be just a cover-up like the

 upri or the under the table bribe of a govt officer and ultimately live a life of misery. a bojha, for everyone in the society.

 however, if this whole process is made transparent

 then there will be a lot of benefits for the society including the kid who will come into this universe

 - the real reason or purpose for picking up a such a father instead of the current husband will be clear cut with purpose and the whole thing will not be taken just as a game of cooling down a hot sausage by cold water of a hapless poor mother taking poverty as an excuse

 - the responsibility of the biological father  - does it end with the birth or just it end with paying the money afterwards or will he have to participate actively in the upbringing of his kid created this way? we know this the kind of #fatherhood of a mediaval person like ghenghis khan, but then it was just by means of sheer force which i think does not have any role to play at present scenario , and it was even not the case in our ancient society as well. All such things were kept open and discussed and debated.

 Hence the responsibility of such fatherhood must be properly defined to get a better benefit out of it if we really sincerely think of it that way. 

 - let the husband and wife decide or ponder upon it. let both of them decide what kind of gene they would really like to preserve. And because the foster father has to play even a bigger role ater the birth, he cannot be kept in dark at all. In fact, his judgement on choosing such a biological father must be given the top most priority. Otherwise, it will be solely the responsibility of the mother of that child after the birth. And if the foster father says in the future, that i was not at all consulted or my opinion was not at all taken care of during this great decision, so now i have no role to play here. And then the mother has to accept it without keeping any grudges.

 - let us not make the whole process a hush-hush sex realted offense just to show to the husband or the foster father who will have to take charge after the birth that we are good people. it makes this holy concept an impure just as a black spot where the kid's life is stigmatized for the whole time of his/her life with falsehood and many times, that kid has to fight with his/her friends who unknowingly try to divulge this #truth to him/her.

 And let us  be hundred percent sure if this is the way we make this holy process a murky, dark satanic part of our society instead of celebrating it as our ancient #wisdom

 then

 the #girls produced under such circumstances will be the targets of the #fleshandbone society

 and the #boys produced under such circumstances will live their whole lives

 just as a #bojha of the society to continue the tradition

 and nobody will either become a fighter like

 #draupadi or #arjun

 and all of us will have to be satisfied just as a creator of a failed rotten society producing foul smells of #falsehood and thus polluting the clean environment of the #universe