Detachment: Beyond Avoidance, Toward Freedom...

Avoidance of negativity is often mistaken for spiritual growth, but it is only a partial step. When we avoid something, we implicitly accept its power over us. Avoidance says, “This exists, and it can disturb me, so I must escape.” In doing so, negativity remains central to our inner life, even if only as something to be resisted.

Detachment operates at a fundamentally different level. It does not deny the existence of negativity, nor does it struggle against it. Instead, detachment alters our relationship with experience itself. What is seen is allowed to be seen, but it is no longer permitted to bind the mind or dictate the inner state. There is awareness without entanglement.

This distinction is crucial. Avoidance is reactive; detachment is liberating. Avoidance strengthens the ego by constantly defending it, while detachment loosens the ego’s grip by refusing to identify with passing emotions, thoughts, or circumstances. In detachment, negativity may arise, but it finds no anchor.

True salvation does not come from running away from darkness, but from standing in clarity. When the mind neither clings nor resists, suffering loses its authority. Detachment is not indifference—it is freedom. And in that freedom lies peace that is untouched by the presence or absence of negativity.

দ্বার বন্ধ করে দিয়ে ভ্রমটারে রুখি। 

সত্য বলে, আমি তবে কোথা দিয়ে ঢুকি?

The above aphorism means

If we shut down the doors of our minds to keep out Lies, even Truth cannot enter.