One of the most awkward time frame of a boy happens at around 13-14 yrs old of age - when he cannot be claimed as an adult, nor can he be claimed as a child.
this is how Rabindranath Tagore tried to explain the characteristics of boys at this age in his short story "Chooti"
The problem with boys of this age period (12-14-years-old) is that they are in-betweeners – no longer children, but not yet adults. Thus they are no longer given the accommodating tolerance that little kids get, and at the same time their often confused early adult-like assertiveness is not tolerated and given gentle refinement, either. This story “Chhooti” is about one such boy and his struggles. In connection with this awkward age for boys, Tagore made these explicit authorial comments in his story "Chooti"
“In this world of human affairs there is no worse nuisance than a boy at the age of fourteen. He is neither ornamental nor useful. It is impossible to shower affection on him as on a little boy; and he is always getting in the way. If he talks with a childish lisp he is called a baby, and if he answers in a grown-up way he is called impertinent. In fact any talk at all from him is resented. Then he is at the unattractive, growing age. He grows out of his clothes with indecent haste; his voice grows hoarse and breaks and quavers; his face grows suddenly angular and unsightly. It is easy to excuse the shortcomings of early childhood, but it is hard to tolerate even unavoidable lapses in a boy of fourteen. The lad himself becomes painfully self-conscious. When he talks with elderly people he is either unduly forward, or else so unduly shy that he appears ashamed of his very existence.“
Tagore goes on to say that what a young teenage boy in these circumstances needs – and what he for the first time in his life feels a craving for – is love.
“Yet it is at this very age when, in his heart of hearts, a young lad most craves for recognition and love; and he becomes the devoted slave of any one who shows him consideration. But none dare openly love him, for that would be regarded as undue indulgence and therefore bad for the boy.
i ll tel u, another kind of dillemma of the children of #bharat at this age who are growing up at a small town like my childhood days
in our time, normally there used to three-four siblings on an avg in a family
and it was very common when all of them were taken to a neighbouring house by their mom on, maybe , a winter evening
and mostly, in such visits, the host used to offer few sweets put on a single plate and keep on the centre table
so far so good
in the group of guests, there used to be definitely one boy at that age group of 13-14 yrs
now... let me narrate the confusion
towards the end of the sweets from the plate, that boy who would like to take the last sweet on the plate, would definitely hesitate to grab it - not because he could not, but because that was the age when he was under the lens of the senior family members.
so his each movement will be observed - at least the person would be under such impression
so, in most of the cases, the young fellow would avoid taking the last sweet from the plate - just to make sure that others think of him not as a greedy person
sabkuch dikhta nahi hain re...
ye andar ka baat hai bhai...
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