Yesterday at around 2:00 am, my wife Reema and I had an esoteric discussion which I am posting here because for us if we want to have our young kids develop an uncluttered mind, we will have to do a detailed discussion about all such things.
The basic idea of the discussion was how or if at all emotion affects the decision-making power when it involves the leader’s own very close family members and, if yes, where will he have to draw a line? Is there any way that the leader, while taking such a decision can detach himself from the family tree itself and take it just as an outside observer so that it becomes as objective as it should? Is it at all possible?
The discussion started like this.
Reema said,” Som, you know very well that even the best neurosurgeon will fail to behave properly, if not crippled at all, in the OT when his own son/daughter is on the operation table. It is very natural for a human being. We are not robots.”
She continued, “ With this context, I would like to know your viewpoint about when #lordrama asked #sitamaa for another agnipariksha after she returned from the ashram with Luv and kush which #sitamaa could not digest well and she buried herself inside the Mother Earth -
Was that ordeal from #lordrama somehow affected because of the emotion and love playing high?
Could He take such a decision had the lady were not #sitamaa - His own wife?
Because #lordrama was not impulsive.
He was a great man of character and integrity, He was worshipped everywhere across the globe, and He knew His every decision could make a huge impact. Why He could not just embrace #sitamaa for whatever She was at that time and accept Her as She was at that moment? What would you have done in such a situation?”
After pondering over this issue, I tried to join the dots in which she is trying to find an answer for integrity and morality.
So I reminded her about our earlier discussion that when I speak to someone or meet someone, actually it's the frequency that matters and I hardly care for the physical aspects or any past history or any possession that person has made - neither the wealth nor the degree or anything as such.
I try to straightway look into that person’s #lordshiva - the vibe - the #innerconscience - and try to understand the message that is coming out from this guy's mental presence (mind the term mental, it's not physical).
Hence, you see when a stranger tries to praise something about me, like the way we studied during our college life “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie and all such crap, I just take it as it is and remain unperturbed. But then again the same emotional detachment I fail to exhibit when it comes to my close family members.
Now to answer your question, let me remind you, that #lordrama was an iconic global figure of His time. Hence he had a bigger role to play which is beyond family emotion. This is the reality of a leader’s life. If you study the lives of #netaji, or #vivekananda, or even #buddha, they had to forgo their family to serve humanity. Netaji’s wife had to accept everything about him even if it hurt her badly and hence she did not stop him knowing that probably he would never come back. A leader like # Shakaracharya had to leave the family behind at the tender age of 8.
And with a little light heart, I conveyed to her, now you know why people like #narendramodiji or #yogiji could not taste the #familylife. Because they are born with a bigger purpose. They cannot be tied to day-to-day family matters and emotions.
So when one has to look at certain decisions taken by such a global leader, where his own family members are involved, we will have to take into consideration many aspects beyond emotion and family…
How much can it impact society as a whole
Will it be considered as the real #dharma by the global community
What message would it transpire to the values of morality in family life
Will it redefine the roles and responsibilities of husband and wife in a family
Then I had to stop the discussion there as I had to edit the C++ write-ups of my young son to publish in his technical blog.
Reema’s personal opinion about the effect of that decision by #lordrama
Pros
#buddha #shakaracharya #swamivivekanada #netaji #narendramodi #yogiji and many such saints of #bharat left the family to serve a better purpose
The importance of balance between #family and #leadership - and for a global leader he has to take care of the bigger community he is supposed to serve. For that, if in the future, whoever want to be a leader, think twice before entering family life to save yourself from this great horns of the dilemma -
#family Vs #community
Cons
Probably “Log keye kahenge” or “What people might say and judge you” started
Kunti conceals Karna’s birthright to know His real father
The discussion I am keeping here as an open-ended discussion…
I want people to ponder upon this subject…
However, I will also think and add accordingly…
Enjoy the poem called Swadharm or Self-responsibility written and recited by my wife #Reema
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