Some days back, I was having a discussion with my wife #reema if someone is kept in a certain environment how it might affect his/her mental development.
So, let me tell you about the practical approach, a more pragmatic approach that I have learned while passing through this dark tunnel of life.
And what it taught me is that we should never spend our time thinking about any specific matter which is not going to add any value to our lives and this is the only way we could move out of the loop of negativity.
I spent a kind of maverick lifestyle in my small hometown at one of the most backward places of #bharat called #purulia. I grew up naturally, spending time under the hot sun of May-June during the afternoon on the rooftop flying kites and then being thrashed by my dad for not taking care of my health, spending quality time with the cows at the cow shed at our backyard, eating jamuns (Indian Blackberry) directly from the tree, playing Lal-Daang (a rural game where one has to keep his wooden stick touching a red brick / or anything red) to remain safe, playing Guli-Danda, playing carrom, badminton and yet studying books like “Dytyio Biswajuddher Itihaas” by Vivekananda Mukhopadhyay, Jule Vern’s novels, Sherlock Holmes, Ramayan, Mahabharata, Nante Fonte, Handa-Bhonda, Bantul The Great, Betal (Phantom), Mandrake, Batris Singhason (Singhasan Battisi) and many such, listening to marvelous stories from my grandfather and frankly speaking never thought of choosing any specific career or as such anything special in life. It was just unplanned, absolute freedom, without anybody’s supervision.
And the moment, I entered the college, the kinds of talks (like Beshyabritti and all such stuff) were not really what I expected and the center of gravity of my thought processing was completely changed. The whole concept of adulthood where we should thrive to do something really worthwhile was kind of polluted - centered around just one physical activity.
And that was enough to kill the natural growth of a human.
Similarly, when a girl is body-shamed continuously, what happens to her, is that all her natural thought processes started revolving around her physical appearance, and the center of gravity of her thought process becomes that physical aspect of life.
To overcome that, the best way is just to stop talking about those things. Stopping in the sense, just stop giving any importance at all to those thought processing.
And that’s why when I say the thoughts of living a life of chastity by Hanuman were much better than the thoughts of Gandhiji’s seeking TRUTH by suppressing his testosterone it has a profound meaning.
The former just gave the thought process about sex an absolute zero-second time, while the latter (Gandhiji) spent a whole lot of time just experimenting or rather revolving his thought process on the same subject - called SEX.
So if Hanumaan could become a kind of became Indrajit (A person who can control his Indriya or senses), the latter (Gandhiji) actually became just a slave of the lowest part of the Muladhara Chakra - and even didn't gather enough courage to build his physical strength to do this physical activity with perfection - and then he thought this process as a TRUTH instead of an outcome of a Corrupt Mind which could not produce any fruitful result.
I remember, in the engineering college, I used to call these kinds of personalities Theory fucking bustards. Although at that time, the college professors were my target, with age I can easily call M K Gandhi just by that name.
So, when yesterday, my son #ridit came out of the bathroom and exclaimed, Baba, as you told me to sometimes fondle my kutu, today I did that and as you explained, the liquid came out with a force.
After listening to that, when I started dancing in front of him, saying, Voila, you have become a Man from a Boy and congratulated him for not being ashamed of this act and gave him a loving pat on his back for being courageous to explain it to me, he answered, Baba, did you forget the Father’s Day conversation with me last year where you explained everything to me and that’s why I take it as a natural growth of a Human Body and Psychic and that’s the reason i first told it to you.
Here goes my Father's Day conversation with my son :
And, hence for me, particularly in the nuclear family of modern city lives, maintaining friendly relationships among the family members is one of the most important aspects of modern parents.
And, probably, I am the best friend of my wife as well as my son in my small family and I am proud to lead a life like this.
