Beware of modern-day Philanthropist...

 The conundrum for the medicos to solve...

I will tell you a story about why in the future one should always be very careful of modern-day philanthropists. I explained to him probably many people work very hard in the background to calculate the ROI of a specific philanthropic act - like #imagebuilding, #goodwill, #personalbranding, and also most of the time, in places like #bharat, the #financialprofitabilty in the near future - especially when it is done by someone who claims himself as a #philanthropist and takes it as a #bragging right.

Let me explain the reality. These days its kind of a great act to do medical camps in remote villages of #bharat where most people live healthy lives. And there is actually tremendous brainpower, many marketing gurus who work to make these camps "successful" - not necessarily to create an #healthy village but rather to create a #sick village.

First, they will create #garamhawa about the need of leading a #healthy life with lots of music, soul-touching stories, many fables, and all such stuff. Simple-minded healthy villagers will start doubting if they are at all leading healthy lives. Then the medical camp will be organized where people will be given free #consultation.

What do these look like? A seemingly street-smart doctor, a glib talker with a shiny book medical book in one of his hands, stethoscope in the ear, in great attire, with lots of caricatures, aapna ga*nd hilate hilate ek healthy, strongly built villager ka ga*nd mein steho lagake bolega...you have problems - with tremendous conviction. Now that simple-looking village, who was never exposed to such great #angels, will ask..."So what can i do...sir/ma'am ?"

The sir/ma'am will give him the address of a specific #pathological center and will ask him to get lots of medical tests done - hags, moot, cough, aur mallom nahin bhai.

The next day, that healthy guy, while answering to nature's call, bara bara do dibba mein aapna hags, moot leke will catch a bus and with a frightened heart, feeling inferior in front of all such #englishspeaking #angels of the #pathological centre will hand over his dabba to them, clear the accounts with his hard-earned money, and girgirate hue puchega.. "sab kuch thik ho jayega na ma'am/sir"

machli jaal mein phaans geya.

treatment shuru ho giya.

The healthy guy will visit the doctor with the reports.

He will lose sleep.

And also he will advise others to lead a #healthy life like him

chakkar chaalu ho gaya puri gaon mein...

aab isme se jitna #roi mila, uhan se bhi kisko kitna milega, cut-money kidhar jayega everything is absolutely done in a $soft excel sheet - meticulous plan.

The Communication Skill issue:

lekin agar usdin medical campaign mein ekbar woh strong banda ka #innerconscience bol uthta ki... "ma'am aap keya yeh sab chota mota stehoe aur keya bolta hain yeah sab ke chakkar mein par gaye. mera pas ek bohut powerful injection hain. uska maja le lo aur zindiagi ji lo."

woh banda aur bhi bola.."ma'am aaplog hamare health ke bare mein itna sochte ho. I am feeling so bad. lekin aap bilkul tension chod do.. aisey ek-do saal pahle ek bohut famous international billionaire philanthropist socha tha ki ye sab unpod aadmiyo ko kayse educate karenge. Toh unhone #harvard se ek bidwan banda ko laya tha. hume to jyada se jyada kuch samajh mein nahin aaya, lekin ek baat aapna andar ghunsh gaya. uhone bola..."life is no fair"...

aur maine yeh sach much feel karta hoon ki #lordshiva is not fair in distributing #assets to everybody. ayse to male logo ko bahar se pata nahin chalta, lekin maine dekha what a bizarre distribution of #assets by #lordshiva to the female population. toh aap bilkul chinta mat koro. aagar aisey koy aapka jan paychanhain, jitna bhi, jin logo nei aapna #lordshiva ke upor gussa hain yeah sochke ki mujhe itna kam #asset kyun diya... to humlog puri koushish karenge usme #democracy lane ka... aur aisey camp aap puri saal rakho... aur iska naam applog #healthcamp mat do ma'am...ye bohut negative lagta hain... app uska naam do "asset multiplying camp - the great #freedommovement for #democracy in #asset distribution" aur hum aapko ye guarantee de raha hoon... ki humarar gaon mein jitna gaonar lamba-chowra jawan hain, uoh sab is great project mein kaam karega. may be without taking any charges.

ye great mahotsab ka agar koy #financial faida uthane chahte ho ... toh usko liye bhi ... jayse hum suna live show ayse hain... uoh sab koushis karenge...

aap sab log maja karte aapna assets ko barte hue dekhoge...

lekin for #development this is not an acceptable condition.

Only the poor #communicationskill of that villager can be blamed for this.

The curse of poor communication skill

And the end result - that healthy guy instead of working in the field, becomes busy in finding his physical problem.

It may create mental problems as well.

the solution is there for that as well.

he will take internet connection (#jio #airtel hain na), attending the motivational speeches of #spiritualguru on #youtube, aur aise sare cheese.

may be #erectile problem hoga. bibi degi  gaali.

uska lie bhi readymade #sexologists hain...

phir aise storyline jo hamare naughy girls karta hain na under the banner... unsatisfied wives.

phir uska bhi alag sa market hain...

woh alag story...

phir ye dekhke bujurg log TV mein debate karega ... "How to control your kaam"

upor #bapuji, #thefatheofnation bolega ,"aab samjha mamu.. why i seek #truth "

ek intellectual who is a specialist in #sexospiritulism, will take this idea and create a web series with the aim to show mainly two ways of seeking #truth through sex.

1. #bapuji way

2. #tantrik way

phir woh ek alag baat.. alag story.

The great use of Data Science

phir #social websites aapna #datascientist ko lagayega ki mera aapna abhi kya haal hain ki main aisa likh raha hoon...

kitni bar sex term use kiya. phir uska piche sentiment analysis aur interpretation... ki at the age of 50, a healthy (for me) guy, if uses the term sex in social websites, blogs, etc with their calculated assumption, does it necessarily mean he is now loving sex or hating sex.

phir #google will buy that #data and i will get advertisements in my browser according to that analysis and interpretation. 

aise mein aab (now it is controlled as improper, hence utterly controlled by many #esoteric logic-phylosophy-medicalscientist-moralscientist-religion... that itself can become another part of the story) agar kabhi kabhi ek do nanga ladki ka photo browser mein tapak gaya (which was more likely few years back) and my inquisitive mind kabhi click kiya to uska bhi bara interpretation nikalega... aur if i give my laptop to my young son, there are very intelligent people out there who came up with the idea of #childlock jisme mera son ko patay nahi chalega kuch.

The great education revolution

aur iss taraf #kyju ka advertisement matter hoga if you want your little kid to know and explain with all mathematical statistics and probability ki aaj se 10 saal baad agar koy 50 years old banda sex karna chahta hain ki nahi, aur agar chahta hain toh what kinds of girls he is interested in so that only photos and videos of that kinds of girls will be fed to his browser from his one month online activities, please enroll your son in #kyju.

the parents of #bharat will start dancing in joy and the kid will be enrolled in the #html class of #kyju to start his great journey in #computerscience. 

here in #bharat everyone will get the clear message - a great data scientist is born.

phir uoh bhi sayed ek market.

Conclusion

and that villager sochega ki yaar mera to banana tha aab ye chiil jaysa ho gaya...

aab keya karoon...

and he will start searching Main Kaun hoon

The great dilemma..

#whoami

that special spiritual journey is another part of the story. it has another market for other needy people...

bariya..right.

enjoy...

kaysa scheme.

management college sikhayega keya.

remember how it started because of the #philanthrophic act of that ga*nd-hilanewali doctor.

now that doctor is working as an #actress after leaving #medicalprofesson... kyunki usme jyada paysa hain...

she is writing this transformation of herself -from #doctor to #actress - as a victory story and searching for #filmproducer to make a #movie on it...

#lifelesson when in your youth, you are doing pretty well, and almost have become sure that you will attain your goal if you find that suddenly somebody appears in life and starts all such ga*nd hilanewala acts, be very very careful. It may harm you for a lifetime.

For male people: it just translates into ...

"Nari naraker dwar..." - girls are the pathway to hell.

not every emotion is worth paying attention to...

know your purpose...

The survival of the fittest - its neither the intelligence nor the strength - but resillience that creates a champ...

After I grew up and gradually started looking at different storybooks to learn about real-life skills, one of the biggest lessons that i got when I was a student of class VI or maybe VII after I went through the depiction of the street fight in the Stalingrad between RED army and Nazi's from Vivekananda Mukhopadhyay's famous book

"Ditiyo Biswajuddher Itihaas"

that 

It's neither the intelligence nor the strength that matters. What matters most is resilience.

Read here....

The Battle of Stalingrad and Its Impact on Hitler's Defeat

The Battle of Stalingrad is one of the most significant and brutal battles of World War II, marking a crucial turning point in the conflict. The defeat of Nazi Germany's forces at Stalingrad during the winter of 1942-1943 had far-reaching consequences for Hitler and the Third Reich.

Background

• Operation Barbarossa: In June 1941, Nazi Germany launched Operation Barbarossa, a massive invasion of the Soviet Union. By the summer of 1942, the German Army had advanced deep into Soviet territory, aiming to capture the industrial city of Stalingrad (now Volgograd) on the Volga River.
• Strategic Importance: Stalingrad was a major industrial center and a key transportation hub. Its capture would secure the southern flank of the German advance and cut off vital supplies to the Soviet forces.

The Battle

• Initial Assault: The battle began in August 1942 with a massive aerial bombardment followed by a ground assault. The Germans initially made significant advances, but the Soviet defenders held on tenaciously, fighting for every street and building.
• Urban Warfare: The battle degenerated into brutal urban warfare, with both sides suffering heavy casualties. The close-quarters combat and harsh winter conditions further compounded the difficulties faced by the soldiers.
• Soviet Counteroffensive: In November 1942, the Soviets launched Operation Uranus, a massive counteroffensive that encircled the German 6th Army and its allies. The encircled forces, commanded by General Friedrich Paulus, were cut off from supplies and reinforcements.

The Defeat

• Winter Conditions: The encircled German forces faced extreme winter conditions, with temperatures dropping below freezing, leading to severe shortages of food, ammunition, and medical supplies.
• Surrender: On February 2, 1943, after months of relentless Soviet attacks and worsening conditions, General Paulus surrendered the remaining German forces in Stalingrad. The defeat marked the first major capitulation of the German Army during the war.

Impact on Hitler and the War

1. Psychological Blow: The defeat at Stalingrad was a significant psychological blow to Hitler and the Nazi leadership. It shattered the myth of the invincibility of the Wehrmacht and boosted the morale of the Allied forces.
2. Strategic Consequences: The loss of an entire army weakened the German military position on the Eastern Front. It marked the beginning of a relentless Soviet advance westward, which would eventually lead to the fall of Berlin in 1945.
3. Shift in Momentum: Stalingrad marked a turning point in the war. The Soviet Union gained the initiative and began a series of offensives that would push the German forces back across Eastern Europe.

Conclusion

The Battle of Stalingrad was a pivotal moment in World War II that had a profound impact on the course of the conflict. The harsh winter conditions, combined with the determined Soviet resistance and effective counteroffensive, led to a devastating defeat for Hitler and his forces, setting the stage for the eventual downfall of the Third Reich.

Now, let me help to energise the memory of my contemporary people.

I have learned mental toughness from many sources - one of which was Martina Navratilova -Steffy Graph and Ivan Lendle - Borris Becker matches.

Now listen to my personal experience - the feeling in such a situation from a horse's mouth.

In my small town, I and my partner used to participate in senior badminton tournaments even when we were just sub-juniors.

Our doubles team reached the semi-final in the first attempt after defeating many senior people.

The audiences were so enthralled, that they wanted to know who is a better player - me or my partner?

So, a match was organised between me and my partner - Adhir.

I started winning in great fashion. Just two or three points away from the win. My partner was far behind. I thought I had already won. Now he cannot beat me anyway.

And that was the time which I never expected. My partner suddenly seemed to become unbeatable. None of my tricks was working. Frustration built up. 

And I was feeling like Oh my God... what has happened to me…

The score became almost equal. The fight seemed to be unbearable. It was just the nerve that was working. Nothing else.

The match had to be stopped because it was pretty late in the winter night. and we had to walk a long distance to reach home.

But the lesson was learned.

Never start your mental champagne party before the final point is won.

Another such test of your patience will be when you fly kites.

There are two ways by which you can do a kite fight

- one is by manoeuvring your kite and pulling your string very fast. This is a technique used by the real fighters - the aggressive ones who just want to kill the enemy with the first attempt. No wastage of time. Just move forward and kill.

- the other way - usually taken by the less skilled players - a passive way of Surki khela - just loosening the threads freely and letting God decide who wins.

I started as a second category but then learned the skill and moved to the first category of fighter after some years of practice and learning. It was not an easy task.

Most of the time the first category people always used to win. Because they never gave any time to the victim to think, maneuver or even hide. They just approached fast and killed.

Now even amongst them, there were different characteristics. There were two expert first-category fighters in our locality - one was Khokanda and the other was Ajit, my badminton partner's elder brother.

Khokanda had just sheer power. He never used to fly kites for a long time... Just maybe for 1 hour in the afternoon. His kite used to fly at a very high altitude, almost beyond anybody's imagination.

But when he used to come down, it was just like a hawk, fast, no time for the victim to even hide and before you think what is going on... you are gone - out. No way of protecting yourself... You have to surrender. Absolute powerplay.

Ajit was somewhat not that cruel. But he had the maneuver skill. And, I learned by observing him that the precision in the time when you start pulling the thread fast will decide the result. And it depends on a lot of things. If less air, more sagging. If more air, less sagging. 

I remember, one day Ajit told me why it is not a good idea to use heavy threads for kite flight because it creates more problems to do precise calculations because of more sagging. 

So the mental calculation of exactly when the force where the thread of your kite touches the enemy's thread, the calculation, and the necessary maneuver...

I swear it's a great skill to build attitude...

And when Ajit and Khokanda had a duel, people used to flock around Ajit (as Khokanda used to fly kites from the rooftop) to enjoy the duel between skill and power... 

Oh my God... what a great show…

And now, in the case of the second category of kite-flyers, sometimes, it takes a very long time to get the result. The kites almost go beyond vision. And then the game of patience starts. Eventually, one participant cannot bear it anymore and most of the time he loses because he stops the surki thinking that ... 

enough...

no more... 

Let me stop it...

Life is a long-haul game... No shortcut to winning..

Patience matters...

 Read....  Read....

Dwitiyo Biswajuddher Itihaas - I

Dwitiyo Biswajuddher Itihaas - II

Seasons of Calcutta

The best part of Calcutta, or Kolkata as it is now known as, is that here different seasons are distinguishable... i stayed in Bangalore for a very long period... everyone says the weather of Bangalore is pretty good... however, i found it pretty monotonous... there are just two seasons.. namely Summer and Winter... on the other hand, in Kolkata, its a different matter altogether... when after the scorching heat of summer, the sky gets covered with dark clouds, it means we are going to experience one seasonal change... when the white clouds start floating against the backdrop of the azure sky after the rainy season, it means we are going to see another season change... it means that the “Sarat kaal’ is approaching.. it means that Gariahaat will be crowded with the enthusiastic people for their puja-shopping... it means that the Bengalis are getting prepared for their puja-holidays... it means the ‘probasi” bengali will flock the railway reservation counter for the puja special trains... and after the puja season gets over, when the morning mist becomes visible in the horizon, when the vegetable market becomes over- flooded with variety of vegetables, cauliflower, cabbage, tomato, and what not, when the halogen lights on the roads are switched on as early as 5 o’clock, when the migratory birds from unknown corners of the globe start flocking in different parts of Kolkata, it means that winter is imminent... and bengalis get ready for their winter-visit to their ancestral homes...and after all the happy moments of the winter, when the holi festival is celebrated with fanfare in Kolkata, when the morning temperature gradually goes up, when the A/C buses start plying with their capacity full, when we get mango “chatni” regularly for our lunches, it tells bengalis to get ready for another onslaught of the summer heat....

Go Slow in Life...

Its very important to go slow to enjoy a happy life...

One of the famous Tagor’s songs goes like this …

“Jibono jokhon shukaye jay...
Karunadharay eso...”

It essentially means - When the life dries up, O Lord! please come to me as a balmy breeze...

fast moving life has its own drawbacks... its important to enjoy the sprouting green leaves after winter... its important to enjoy the dark cloud as seen through the small window of the 10X10 room... its important to enjoy soothing music....its important to enjoy the smell of raindrops falling on parched soil... its important to enjoy watching kids making castles on the sands... its important to enjoy walking bare-foot on the moist green grass... its important to enjoy looking at the starry sky from the roof-top in a blacked-out night...

Happiness

Ekti sishir bindu (the glistening dewdrop)
বহু দিন ধ’রে বহু ক্রোশ দূরে
বহু ব্যয় করি বহু দেশ ঘুরে
দেখিতে গিয়েছি পর্বতমালা,
দেখিতে গিয়েছি সিন্ধু।
দেখা হয় নাই চক্ষু মেলিয়া
ঘর হতে শুধু দুই পা ফেলিয়া
একটি ধানের শিষের উপরে
একটি শিশিরবিন্দু।
– রবীন্দ্রনাথ ঠাকুর (স্ফুলিঙ্গ হতে সংগ্রহীত)


“Bohu din dhore, bohu krosh dure,
bohu byay kori, bohu desh ghure,
Dekhite giyachhi parbotmala, dekhite giyachhi sindhu,
Dekha hoy nai chokkhu meliya,
Ghar hote shudhu dui pa feliya,
Ekti dhaner shisher upore ekti shishir bindu”


English Translation : (taken from the Internet)

I traveled miles, for many a year,
Spent riches, in lands afar,
I’ve gone to see the mountains, the oceans I’ve been to view.
But I haven’t seen with these eyes
What two steps from my home lie
On a sheaf of paddy grain, a glistening drop of dew.
– Rabindranath Thakur (Collected from Sphulinga)

Everybody wants to be happy. We work, we play, we talk keeping only one thing in our minds - we want to see ourselves and others around us happy. But do we really know the definition of happiness? Happiness has different meanings to different people. Thus a student becomes happy when he performs well in the study, a player becomes happy when he plays well, a scientist becomes happy when he does something worthwhile in his path to discovery. In other words, we become happy when we become successful in our endeavors. But to strive for success we need to understand that we should not neglect the small moments of joy. Hence by fixing our eyes at the targets while traveling through the bumpy rides of our lives, we must not overlook the small moments of happiness. It reminds me of a few lines from a poem of Rabindranath Tagore of India:

“Dekhi nay sudhu du chokh meliya, Ghar hote aaji duy pa pheliya, Ekti ghaser shisher upor.. ekti shishir bindu......”
This essentially means that while searching for some eventful big happy moments, we sometimes forget to enjoy the small moments of happiness.

These days I have changed my outlook towards life and have started enjoying the small so-called insignificant beauties of life like children playing in the school ground, a little boy trying to learn how to ride his bicycle, the flowers covering the small tree in front of my balcony, birds chirping in the bush, white clouds floating against the backdrop of an azure sky, a sip of the hot coffee at the cozy corner of my home.

This is what life is.

At the end of life, how much you love others and how much you have been loved by others - that only matters.

Yes...

This is #TRUTH

Enjoy the song - life is like a river - the flow must not be stopped - or else life becomes death...

It reminds me of one story from Mahabharata, the great epic from India. My grandfather used to tell me about this story too often. It says that one-day Yamraj, the God of Death, asked Yudhisthir, the eldest brother of the Pandava and one of the sanest persons in Mahabharata, Who is the Happiest Person in this World. Yudhisthir replied that the person who does not stay in a foreign land, who does not owe anything to anybody, and who is contented in life with bare minimum necessities is the Happiest person in this world.

To become really happy one has to embrace a slow life. Fast-moving life has its own drawbacks. It's important to enjoy the sprouting green leaves after winter, to enjoy the dark cloud as seen through the small window of our bedroom, to enjoy soothing music, to enjoy the smell of raindrops falling on parched soil, to enjoy watching kids making castles on the sands, to enjoy walking bare-foot on the moist green grass, to enjoy looking at the starry sky from the roof-top in a blacked-out night.

“Aaj mile hai jo khushi, kal pe na usko talo... Titli hai yeh ud jayegi, jitney bhi pehere dalo......

Added: For your reference...

Conversation between Yudhisthir and Dharmaraj
(as described in Mahabharata. because of the internet, I can get the originality.)

Question No. 1:Yaksha questioned: Who makes the sun rise and ascend in the skies? Who moves around the Sun? Who makes the sunset in the horizons? What is the true nature of the Sun and where is the sun established?

Yudhisthira answered: Brahma makes the sunrise and ascends. The Gods perambulate about the Sun. The Dharm
sets the Sun. Truth is the actual Sun and the Sun is established in truth only.

Question No. 2: Yaksha enquired: What instills 'divinity' in Brahmins?
What is the quality of virtuosity in a Brahmin? What is the humanlike quality of a Brahmin? What is the conduct akin to a non-virtuous person in a Brahmin?

Yudhisthira replied: The self-study (Swadhyana) of the Vedas is divinity in a Brahmin. Penance is the quality of a virtuous person in a Brahmin. Death is human-like quality in a Brahmin. Criticising others is conducted in a Brahmin like a non-virtuous person.

Question No. 3: Yaksha asked: What instills 'divinity' in Kshatriyas? What is the quality of virtuosity in a Kshatriya? What is the humanlike quality of a Kshatriya? What is the conduct akin to a non-virtuous person in a Kshatriya?

Yudhisthira replied: The art of archery is the divinity in a Kshatriya. Oblation is Kshatriya's quality of virtuosity in Kshatriya. Fear is his humanly quality. Abandoning people under the protection of the Kshatriya is conducted like a non-virtuous person in the Kshatriya.

Question No. 4 the Yaksha asked: What is that thing which is like a Mantra in the performance of oblations (Yajnya)? Who is the performer of rites and ceremonies during Yajnya? Who accepts the offerings and oblations of a Yajnya? What is that which even a Yajnya can not transgress?

Yudhisthira replied: 'Breath' is like a Mantra in the performance of rites. 'Mind' is the performer of all rites in the course of Yajnya. Only Shlokas of the Vedas termed rucha or the richa accept oblation. The Yajnya can not surpass nor transgress the richas.

Question No. 5 the Yaksha asked: What is heavier than the earth, higher than heavens, faster than the wind, and more numerous than straws?

Yudhishthira: One's mother is heavier than the earth; one's father is higher than the mountains. The mind is faster than the wind and our worries are more numerous than straws.

Question No. 6 the Yaksha asked: Who is the friend of a traveler? Who is the friend of one who is ill and one who is dying?

Yudhishthira: The friend of a traveler is his companion. The physician is the friend of one who is sick and a dying man's friend is charity.

Question No. 7 the Yaksha asked: What is that which, when renounced, makes one lovable? What is that which is renounced makes happy and wealthy?

Yudhishthira: Pride, if renounced makes one lovable; by renouncing desire one becomes wealthy, and to renounce avarice is to obtain happiness.

Question No. 8 the Yaksha asked: What enemy is invincible? What constitutes an incurable disease? What sort of man is noble and what sort is ignoble?

Yudhishthira: Anger is the invincible enemy. Covetousness constitutes a disease that is incurable. He is noble who desires the well-being of all creatures, and he is ignoble who is without mercy.
Question No. 9 the Yaksha asked: Who is truly happy? What is the greatest wonder? What is the path? And what is the news?

Yudhishthira: He who has no debts is truly happy. Day after day countless people die. Yet the living wishes to live forever. O Lord, what can be a greater wonder? Argument leads to no certain conclusion, the Srutis are different from one another; there is not even one Rishi whose opinion can be accepted by all; the truth about Dharma and duty is hid in caves of our heart: therefore, that alone is the path along which the great have trod. This world full of ignorance is like a pan. The sun is fire, the days and nights are fuel. The months and the seasons constitute the wooden ladle. Time is the cook that is cooking all creatures in that pan (with such aids); this is the news

Yudhistira could answer all the many many questions of the Yaksha, but all through he had this doubt regarding the real nature of the Yaksha. He had also raised the question in this regard, but he wasn't replied to. However, in the end, the Yaksha revealed himself to be Yama-Dharma, the god of death, who was none other than Yudhistira's father. He also admitted to Yudhistira that it was he who had stolen the ARANI in form of the deer. He blessed him, saying since he had adhered to Dharma(the righteousness), the Dharma shall protect them. Nobody will recognize them during the Ajanta Vasa.

My feelings while invigilating....

I understand this is a difficult topic... However, while invigilating, i had a strange feeling... the urge not to copy from others or not to do any malpractice at the exam center should come from within the student community... the student community must understand that the exam is not the end of life, but the attitude they show during exam will be their lifelong assets... one may get good marks in the exam by foul means, he may prosper in his future life as well by corrupt means... but this is possible only in the corrupt environment of India... he will never be accepted by the global engineering workforce...

in this context i would like to mention that i was utterly shocked when i heard the news that few judges have been expelled from the exam because of malpractice during exam... what else can we expect from the student community when the judges are setting this example? it is as if everyone is competing to win the race... nobody is happy by participating in the exam that is called life...

i would like to end this write up with my favorite quotation...

"To win is no more than this...
To rise each time you fall..."

Owning an address

Whenever I used to receive a request from any office or any government agency to submit my communication address, I used to wonder “Will I be here next month?” The answer was uncertain... So far my permanent address in a city was probably the email address... however the situation is changed now... I have got a permanent physical address of my own in Kolkata... its really very very assuring... as I see the final paint or the interior decoration is coming to an end, it gives a pleasure unexplainable in words...as I watch my wife actively taking part in the discussion with the carpenter or the painter about several issues, when I see her dancing in ecstasy in front of the newly built cupboard, I feel that every woman in this world should get a home of her own... I think for a woman it really does not matter if the home is a mansion or a hut, what matters the most for her is whether that home is her own or not... it reminds me of an old Bengali song in which the poet is asking the cuckoo how it feels not having a nest of her own...

the best part of my new home is that it reminds me of my own childhood days... its not in a very posh locality... in fact the people around are those type of people who constitute most of the Indian population... however, they are friendly unlike a very cosmopolitan culture... and when they start chanting together “Bhole baba... paar karega...”...whenever I visit the small roadside temple of God Sani...or when i hear the sound of conch in the evening... its just my childhood days revisited...

Now I understand what is meant by

“Dekhi nay sudhu du chokh meliya...

Ghar hote aaji duy paa feliya...

Ekti ghasher shisher upor ekti shishir bindu...”

When the pattering sound of raindrops falling on the leaves of the coconut tree enters my ears, when i smell the fragrance of the raindrops falling on the parched soil, when I look through the windows of my kitchen at the far away outside advertisement hoarding through the raindrops, when the wet breeze with cold rain water drenches me and the window curtains... I feel like I am on cloud 9. one does not need a mansion to feel this, however one has to have his own hut for this feeling... and i thank God for whatever he has given to me...